i do not like to communicate with my boyfren through internet messenger...cause 70% of the time we end up quarrelling... is not that something serious happens but perhaps its the way we express ourselves through internet ba... u tend to expose the other side of urself. the other side of ur mind. messenges also often get warpped due to the lack of physical contact and also visual contact... u dun necessarily mean something u said but the other party might interpret it in another way. or u might be talking in a jokin manner or in a light-hearted manner but the other party might take it in at a harsher tone...then one party gets irritated and in turn influences the other party by reacting in a negative fashion. the other party will then not understand what the hell is he/she reacting so violently about and reciprocate in the same manner...

my first time happened in icq with my jc (boy)fren... somehow messages got warpped and we ended up quarrelling over icq. recalling back, both of us said realli bad words to each other like "u idiot" or "mad" or something...after one very heated argument, the almost blossomed relationship didnt happened and i transferred sch...

now..the same thing happens too... loads of misunderstanding.. loads of 'lost' communication... visual and physical communication is very important indeed... so sianz... sometimes after an internet argument, i would get so tired...tired of trying to conjure up the bits of arguments that we had and trying to piece them together to find out why did we actually argue in the first place. dunno whther is my memory failing me but sometimes i realli cant find the root of our argument in the first place...

nxt time...